Signs Your Ex Is Thinking of You from a Spiritual POV

Breakups are just hard. They’re a messy, chaotic tornado of emotions, and the silence that follows? It can be absolutely deafening.

You’re left spinning with one question: “Do they ever think about me?”

We all crave that. We want the validation, the simple knowledge that the connection we felt wasn’t just in our own heads. But when the texts stop and the DMs dry up, how can you tell?

Sometimes, the answers aren’t in your phone. They’re in what you can feel.

If you’ve been experiencing strange, unexplainable things lately, you might be picking up on the spiritual signs your ex is thinking of you.

It’s a jolt.

It’s that weird, unshakeable feeling you get when you’re just trying to live your life. Stocking your fridge. Sitting in traffic. Trying to focus on a Zoom meeting. It’s a sudden, quiet knowing that, despite the silence, the connection isn’t completely gone.

This isn’t wishful thinking. This is about energy. When you share a deep bond with someone, you create an energetic cord. That cord doesn’t just vanish overnight just because you’re not “together.” And when your ex’s thoughts are focused hard on you, that energy pings you.

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Key Takeaways

Before we dive deep, let’s get clear on the core ideas. If you’re in a hurry, here’s what you need to know about the spiritual side of a lingering connection:

• Energy Doesn’t Lie: Strong emotions—longing, regret, even anger—transmit energy. You can often feel this physically and emotionally, even miles away.
• Synchronicity is Real: The universe has a funny way of getting your attention. It uses repetition (numbers, songs, names) as a “tap on the shoulder” to make you pay attention to something… or someone.
• Dreams are a Gateway: Your dream state is where your subconscious and spiritual guards are down. This makes it a prime-time channel for energetic communication.
• Your Intuition is Your Guide: A lot of these signs are subtle. The most powerful tool you have is your own intuition. That “gut feeling.” That sense that something is more than just a coincidence. Trust it.
• Signs Aren’t a Guarantee: Feeling a spiritual sign that your ex is thinking of you is a powerful, validating experience. It is not a guarantee that you will or should get back together. It’s a prompt for reflection, not just a green light to react.

First Things First: What Is This “Spiritual Connection” Anyway?

We toss around words like “vibe” and “energy” all the time. But what do they really mean here?

A spiritual connection isn’t just about liking the same movies or having good chemistry. It’s an energetic bond. Some people call it a soul tie. Others call it a twin flame connection. Honestly, the label doesn’t matter as much as the feeling.

It’s that strange sense you’ve known this person before. That feeling you “get” each other on a level that words can’t really explain.

When a relationship this deep ends, that energetic cord doesn’t just snap. It gets stretched. Frayed. Tangled. But it’s still there. This is why you can feel them, even when they’re nowhere to be found.

You’re not crazy. You’re just energetically sensitive.

Is This Really a Sign, or Am I Just Missing Them?

This is the million-dollar question, isn’t it? Disentangling our own longing from a genuine spiritual sign is the hardest part.

Of course you miss them. That’s normal. That’s human.

Here’s how to tell the difference. Your own longing usually feels like a dull ache. A persistent sadness that’s centered in you. It’s a feeling of lack.

A spiritual sign, on the other hand, often feels like an intrusion.

It’s external. It’s a sudden, sharp spike of emotion that isn’t yours. A bizarre coincidence that jolts you out of your reality. One is a pull from your memory; the other is a push from an external energy source. Learning to tell the difference is all about mindfulness and, frankly, just paying attention.

Are You Suddenly Dreaming About Them All the Time?

This is a big one. It’s one of the most common and powerful signs your ex is thinking of you.

Why?

Because when we sleep, our conscious mind finally shuts up. The part that’s angry, hurt, or trying to “be strong” and “move on” finally goes quiet. This allows our subconscious and our spiritual selves to come to the forefront.

Think of it as the spiritual version of a phone line. During the day, the line is busy. Work. Errands. The noise of everyday life. At night, the line is clear.

If your ex is spending their waking hours thinking about you, regretting things, or just plain missing you, that energy has to go somewhere. When you’re both asleep, your spiritual “guards” are down. Their energy can reach you, and your brain translates this energetic “call” into a dream.

But What Do These Dreams Mean?

Not all dreams are created equal. A dream where you’re anxiously replaying your last fight? That’s likely your own brain processing trauma. That’s you.

But what about the other dreams?

• The “Visit” Dream: This is the dream where your ex appears, but it feels… different. It feels incredibly real. They might not even say anything. They might just look at you, or hug you, or smile. You wake up with a lingering feeling of peace (or sadness) that feels less like a dream and more like a memory of a real event. Many people see this as a “soul-level” visit.
• The “Random Cameo” Dream: You’re dreaming about something totally unrelated—you’re at work, or back in high school—and your ex just walks through the scene. They don’t do anything, but their presence is noted. This can be a sign that they are a “passing thought” in your energetic field.
• The “Message” Dream: They appear in your dream to tell you something specific. “I’m sorry.” “I miss you.” You might wake up brushing this off, but if it felt real, it’s worth paying attention to. It could be their higher self trying to communicate what their ego won’t let them say in real life.

These dreams are often vivid. They’re emotional. They stick with you all day. Don’t just brush them off. They are a significant sign that your energy is still on their mind.

Do You Get Sudden, Overwhelming Waves of Their Emotions?

This one’s a doozy. And it’s the one that makes most people think they’re losing their minds.

You’re fine. You’re having a good day, maybe even laughing with a friend, and then… BAM.

You’re suddenly hit with a wave of profound sadness that isn’t yours. Or a sharp stab of anxiety. Or a sudden, warm feeling of affection that comes from absolutely nowhere.

This is a classic sign of a deep energetic bond. You are, quite literally, feeling their feelings. It’s a spontaneous telepathic or empathic link. When their feelings for you (or about you) become incredibly strong, they broadcast that energy. And you, being the other half of that connection, pick it up like a radio receiver.

I Swear This Happened to Me… The “Crying in the Cereal Aisle” Incident

I have to share this. This was the moment I knew this stuff was real.

I was about two months post-breakup with a man I had a very deep, very complicated connection with. I was finally having a good day. I was at the grocery store on a random Tuesday night, humming along to the terrible overhead music, trying to decide between Honey Nut Cheerios and Raisin Bran.

Suddenly, I was hit by a wave of grief so profound, I had to grab the shopping cart to steady myself.

My knees literally buckled. It wasn’t my sadness. My sadness was a slow burn, a familiar ache. This was a jagged, raw, desperate grief. I burst into tears right there over the oat bran. It was so strong and so not me that I actually abandoned my cart and went home.

I felt crazy. Ashamed. Ridiculous.

Later that night, I got a text from a mutual friend. My ex’s dog, his best friend of 14 years, had to be put down that evening. He had been alone in his apartment, completely wrecked, at the exact time I was in the cereal aisle. I had felt his grief. The connection was so strong that his emotion had found me miles away.

So, trust me. If you feel it, you feel it. It’s not in your head.

Why Am I Seeing Their Name or Birthday Everywhere?

This is the universe’s way of winking at you. It’s called synchronicity. The psychologist Carl Jung made this term famous. It basically means “meaningful coincidences.” It’s when the outside world mirrors your inner world in a way that is statistically just… weird.

When your ex is thinking about you, their “energy” is activated. The universe, which is all just interconnected energy, responds. You become a magnet for things associated with them.

You’ll see their unusual name on a barista’s tag. You’ll hear it on a TV show. You’ll see their exact birthday as the total on a receipt ($10.21 on 10/21). You’ll see their old, specific car model (that you never noticed before) three times in one day.

Is This Just My Brain Playing Tricks on Me?

Let’s be real: part of this is psychological. There’s a known concept called the “Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon,” or frequency illusion. Once you learn about something (or someone is on your mind), you suddenly start noticing it everywhere. Your brain is wired for pattern recognition.

But here’s where the spiritual part comes in. Why now? Why did your brain start this pattern-seeking this week, all of a sudden?

The spiritual explanation is that your ex’s energy (them thinking of you) activates your own energy. This activation primes your brain to seek and find these patterns. It’s not just your brain playing a trick; it’s your brain responding to an energetic cue. The universe is using your brain’s natural tendencies to get a message to you.

So, is it your brain? Yes. Is it the universe? Also yes. The two work together. When it happens once, it’s a coincidence. When it happens five times in one day, it’s a synchronicity. Pay attention.

Are “Your Song” or Private Jokes Popping Up Randomly?

This is a specific and highly personal form of synchronicity. Every couple has their “things.”

• “Your song”
• A specific movie line you always quoted
• A silly nickname
• A shared, weird-but-funny memory

When you’re no longer together, hearing “your song” can be pure torture. But what if you’re hearing it everywhere? You walk into a store, it’s playing. You change the radio station, and it’s just starting. A friend you haven’t spoken to in ages posts the lyrics on their Instagram story.

This is a very strong sign your ex is thinking of you.

Music and memory are deeply linked in our brains. When your ex is reminiscing, feeling nostalgic, or missing you, they are very likely listening to “your song.” That act of them focusing their emotional energy on that specific song essentially “charges” it. You, being on the same energetic frequency, will then start to encounter it. They are “sending” that song out into the ether with their longing, and you are picking it up.

The same goes for inside jokes. If you suddenly hear that obscure movie quote three times in one week, it’s a sign. It’s the universe’s way of saying, “Yep, that bond is still active. They’re thinking about those good times.”

What About That Random Goosebump Feeling When You’re Not Cold?

Let’s get physical for a second. Sometimes, these signs aren’t just emotional or mental. They show up in your body.

You’re sitting on your couch reading a book. The windows are closed. You’re perfectly warm. Suddenly, a shiver runs up your spine. Or you get goosebumps all over one arm. Or the hair on the back of your neck just stands up for no reason.

This is a classic energetic sign. People in spiritual circles often call this a “psychic chill” or an energetic “zing.” It’s a physical reaction to a sudden spike in spiritual energy. It can mean a spirit is near, but in this context, it’s very often a sign that someone is thinking about you intensely.

Think of it as their energy “touching” yours. Their thought of you was so strong and sudden that it manifested as a physical “poke” to your energetic field. Your body reacted. It’s your nervous system’s way of saying, “Whoa, did you feel that?”

Yes, you did.

Do You Feel a “Pull” or Even a Phantom Touch?

This one is a little rarer. It tends to happen with extremely strong connections. It’s a step beyond just goosebumps.

• The Energetic “Pull”: This is a physical sensation, often in your chest (your heart chakra) or your gut (your solar plexus). It feels like a string is attached to that part of your body, and someone just gave it a gentle tug. It’s a powerful, unmistakable feeling of being “pulled” toward them, or just their energy “calling” to yours.
• The Phantom Touch: This is even more… well, spooky. You’ll be doing the dishes and suddenly feel a hand on your shoulder. You’ll be lying in bed and feel a “dip” in the mattress next to you, as if someone just sat down. You’ll feel someone lightly brush your hair off your face.

This is not a sign of insanity. It is often a manifestation of “astral projection” or their “higher self” reaching out. While their physical body is somewhere else, their soul or energy body is so focused on you that it momentarily projects itself to where you are. They are thinking of you so hard, “I wish I could just touch them,” that, on an energetic level, they do.

Why Do I Suddenly Feel the Urge to Text Them Out of the Blue?

This is a tricky one. We have to, once again, separate loneliness from intuition.

The “lonely” urge to text is a thought. It’s a product of your mind. It sounds like this: “I’m so bored. I wonder what he’s doing. Maybe I should just send a meme. What’s the harm? I miss him. This silence is awful.” It’s a logical (or illogical) train of thought.

The intuitive urge to text is a jolt.

It’s a feeling that comes from your gut, not your head. You’ll be completely fine, not even thinking about them, and you’ll be hit with a sudden, overwhelming, physical urge to pick up the phone. It feels like an impulse, not a decision.

What’s happening here? You are picking up on their urge to talk to you.

They are sitting there, phone in hand, typing out a “Hey” and deleting it. They are looking at your picture and wishing you would text. You are feeling their intention. That jolt you feel is the “rebound” of their own strong desire to reach out. Often, if you act on this intuitive urge (and this is a big “if”—always protect your peace), you’ll get an instant reply, like “I was just thinking about you!”

My “Yellow Umbrella” Story: A Lesson in Asking for Signs

This is another one that I’ll never forget. It was months after another breakup. I was healing, but I was struggling. I felt lost. We had a “thing” from the show How I Met Your Mother—the yellow umbrella. It was our symbol for “meant to be.”

One day, I was crying in my car during my lunch break. I was just so tired of the confusion. I finally just… yelled. I yelled at the universe, at God, at whatever was listening.

“If I’m supposed to hold on, if he’s even thinking about me, just give me a sign. Show me a yellow umbrella. And don’t make it easy. I live in Southern California. It’s August. There’s a drought. Show me a real sign.”

I felt silly. I dried my tears and went back to work.

That afternoon, on my drive home, I passed a woman walking a dog. She was holding a bright yellow, tightly-closed umbrella. Not to block the sun. Just… holding it.

I froze. “Okay,” I thought. “That’s one. That’s a good one. But it could be a coincidence.”

I turned the corner onto my street. A few houses down, my neighbor was bringing in his mail. He had one of those big, patio-style umbrellas on his lawn, and he was struggling to close it. It was bright, obnoxious, banana-yellow.

My heart was pounding. “This is weird. This is really weird.”

I pulled into my driveway, sat in my car for a minute, and then went inside. I threw my keys on the counter. And on the counter, on top of a pile of junk mail I hadn’t sorted, was a flyer. It was for a new insurance company. Their logo? A cartoon man… holding a yellow umbrella.

I didn’t laugh. I didn’t cry. I just sat down.

The universe had heard me. And it had answered. It didn’t mean we were getting back together (we didn’t, for the record), but it meant my connection was real. It meant I wasn’t crazy. It meant I was heard.

Sometimes, the universe is just waiting for you to ask.

Are Angel Numbers (11:11, 222, 444) Stalking You?

If you’re seeing repeating number sequences—11:11 on the clock, 222 on a license plate, $4.44 as your change—this is a classic spiritual sign. These are often called “angel numbers.”

These numbers are a direct high-five from the universe. They are a sign that you are “in alignment” and that your thoughts are manifesting. But how do they relate to your ex?

• 11:11: The “gateway” or “wake-up call” number. When you see this, it’s often a sign that your thoughts are particularly powerful. If you’re thinking of your ex when you see 11:11, it’s a sign that your connection is “online” and that you are both likely thinking of each other at that moment. It’s a portal of connection.
• 222: The number of partnership, duality, and relationships. Seeing 222 can be a sign to pay attention to the relationships in your life. In the context of an ex, it’s often a sign of reunion or that a relationship (even a past one) is on your path for a reason.
• 444: The number of protection and guidance. Your angels are with you. This is a sign of comfort, especially if you’re feeling sad about your ex. It’s a reminder that you are loved and supported, no matter what.
• 555: The number of change. Big shifts are coming. If you see this while thinking of your ex, it could mean that the energy of your old relationship is about to shift, either by you finally moving on, or by them coming back in a new way.

When you see these numbers, take a moment. Pause. What were you just thinking about? What were you just feeling? The number is the universe’s way of underlining that thought.

Okay, I’m Getting the Signs. What Do I Do Now?

This is the most important part.

You’re getting the dreams. You’re seeing the 11:11s. You’re crying in the cereal aisle. You are validated. The connection is real. They are thinking of you.

…Now what?

First, take a deep breath. A sign is not a command. It is not a green light to text them, call them, or show up at their door.

A sign is simply information.

It’s the universe’s way of saying, “We see you. This is real. You’re not making this up.” Use these signs as a source of comfort, not a source of anxiety.

1. Get Grounded: It’s easy to get lost in the “woo” and live in your head, looking for the next sign. You have to stay grounded in your real life. Go for a walk. Put your bare feet on the grass. Do the dishes. Focus on your body and your present-tense reality.
2. Protect Your Peace: Ask yourself one question: “Does interacting with this person, or the thought of this person, bring me peace or does it bring me chaos?” Be brutally honest. If the relationship was toxic, a spiritual sign is not an invitation to go back. It may be a sign that they want to, but that’s their journey. Your journey is to protect your own healing. *3. Trust Your Intuition: Your gut knows the truth. Does all this energy feel good and loving? Or does it feel obsessive, heavy, and draining? If it’s the latter, you may need to do an “energetic cord-cutting” ritual to give yourself space to heal, regardless of how much they are thinking of you. You can find many guided meditations for this online.

Does This Mean We’re Getting Back Together?

This is the question, isn’t it? The hard truth is: not necessarily.

These signs confirm a connection. They do not predict a conclusion.

Sometimes, these signs appear because your ex is thinking of you and regretting their actions. They are learning a lesson. Sometimes, you are the lesson, and these energetic pings are just the fallout from that.

Sometimes, the signs are strong because you are meant to get back together, but only after you’ve both done the work. The universe might be saying, “Hold on, but not yet.”

And sometimes, the signs are just a final, beautiful, spiritual “goodbye.” It’s the universe’s way of validating the love you shared, so you can finally close that chapter with peace, knowing it was real and it mattered.

The only person who can know the difference is you.

Your Journey Is Your Own

At the end of the day, these spiritual signs your ex is thinking of you are, first and foremost, for you.

They are a validation of your own intuition. Your own sensitivity. They are a reminder that there is more to this world than what we can see, and that the connections we forge with other souls are powerful and lasting.

Whether this person comes back into your life or not, this experience is waking you up to your own power. You are an intuitive, empathic, and energetically aware person.

What a gift.

Don’t get so caught up in their story—what they’re thinking, what they’re feeling, what they’re going to do—that you forget to live yours. Receive these signs with gratitude and a little bit of wonder. Use them as comfort. But don’t put your life on hold waiting for the next one.

Your life is happening now. Your energy is a precious resource. Spend it wisely. And trust that, no matter what, you are being guided.

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